Anger Management: How To Express Anger Healthfully

May 25th, 2011
By Nitika Chopra | The Beauty Bean

Anger often seems like a forbidden land that women should never enter. Since childhood, we’ve been told that ladies remain poised when faced with confrontation. We are pleasers. While men show anger when upset (and are told that it is practically a part of their manhood), women aren’t expected to yell, scream or shout.

But everyone feels hurt, upset, frustrated and down-right-mad at times. So how is it that it became do difficult for women to express anger – especially when anger is not only a natural emotion to feel, but also beneficial to our health to express? (It should come as no surprise that repressed emotions benefit no one – except perhaps your therapist’s bank account.)

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We may not be able to keep you from getting angry (what can we say, your boyfriend may never put down that toilet seat), we do have some helpful ways for you to express your anger to its fullest potential that are sure to have you leading a healthier and more expressive life!

How Get Your Anger On…

Acknowledge the Feeling. Although many people might think it isn’t proper to be angry, The Beauty Bean knows that we are human beings, not robots! So we want you to start at the beginning and just acknowledge that you are angry.  Distinguishing that there is something bothering you is half the battle so, instead of trying to cover it up with a fake smile or stuff it with a piece of cake, just admit “I am angry damn it!” and watch the feeling begin to dissipate.

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Creatively Express Your Anger Off. It really doesn’t matter if you want to try to dance like Ciara or sing like Christina Aguilera, sometimes expressing yourself in a way that is creative and requires using your entire body is the only thing that can move you from a serious place to a lighter one. So, next time you’re ready to jump down someone’s throat, try closing your door and dancing or singing your anger off.

Find An Anger Buddy. We sometimes hear people recommend screaming in a pillow or using a punching bag to release anger, but sometimes that just doesn’t cut it. Sometimes you just need someone to hear you out. Just remember to use discretion when choosing to whom to vent to, prepare your buddy ahead of time by prefacing your rant with “I just need t vent” and express yourself in private so you don’t disturb the peace.

Whether your frustration is from something monumental or somewhat trivial, we all have the right to express our emotions. So, as Madonna would say, “Express Yourself!”

- The Beauty Bean


Maximize Your Massage Experience

May 20th, 2011

Advice on getting a massage. How to alleviate discomfort, what to tip, and how to book the best massage therapist for your bodywork needs.

There are many types of massages, and there are many reasons to get a massage. A great massage reduces stress, provides muscular physical therapy, and incites general relaxation while boosting immunity, increasing blood circulation, promoting better sleep, and waking endorphins. Sounds like a no-brainer, right? Despite all of the positive benefits that a massage provides, there are still many people who are very uneasy the second they hit a massage table.

The following tips will help you make the most of your next massage appointment, and hopefully, help ease some of the stress that tends to come along with it.

Book an Appointment
When scheduling your massage appointment, ask questions about the therapists.

· If you are particularly fussy (we all have our moments), ask to see the “most senior” massage therapist.

· Verify the gender of the therapist when booking and book according to your preference. Some prefer to see men, some prefer women. If you coordinate your preference beforehand, you will be one step closer to enjoying your massage.

· There are usually specialists of various massage techniques, (such as deep tissue, maternity, etc.) For example, if you have knots across you upper back and desire hard-core bodywork, ask for someone who specializes in a “sports” or “deep tissue” massage. Note: If you are unsure of the type of massage you need, let the customer service agent know when booking. You can book the amount of time you wish, then customize the service to fit your needs once you arrive.

Take in Your Surroundings
You are spending money for a special service to treat yourself and to relax. Before the service begins, take a few extra moments to inhale the aromatherapy, listen to the calming music, and to disrobe. Note: A license to practice should always be displayed.

Speak Up
If you are uncomfortable with ANY part of the massage service, speak up immediately. A trained professional will customize pressure according to your wishes, but if you don’t mention discomfort or pain, they will never know.

Drink Water
Some feel like they could go straight to sleep after a massage ‘” others feel they could climb to the peak of a mountain. Regardless of how you feel, drink at least 32-oz of water following your massage. And while you really shouldn’t drink after a massage, let’s get real. Usually a massage is a treat for a special occasion. Special occasions usually include dinner plans, which often include wine or a couple of cocktails. Enjoy yourself, just be sure to drink plenty of water. Why drinking water is so important: Massage breaks up toxins in your tissues and cells, these toxins then circulate through your bloodstream. When alcohol is consumed, it is a recipe for sore muscles the following day.

General Etiquette:
- Undergarments can be worn at all times if preferred. Wearing undergarments, however, can constrict fluid motion if having a full body massage. Going nude is appropriate as well. Wear (or don’t wear) what makes you feel the most comfortable.

- You DO NOT NEED TO TALK during your massage. Some people feel like they need to speak during a service to alleviate “nervous silence.” This can take away from the experience. A good massage therapist feeds off your subliminal instruction. If you talk, they will talk. If you are silent, they will be too. To make the most of your massage: Save the chattering for your cutting designer.

- Gratuity between 15% – 20% is customary.

-Stefanie Payne

Eating Out Without the Guilt

May 18th, 2011
By: Elise Edwards,

There is little as fabulously indulgent as heading out to your favorite restaurant, ordering a cocktail and devouring a decadent meal. That is, until you survey the empty plates and your bloated belly and think, “I’m going to pay for this tomorrow.” Luckily, wellness expert, David Kirsch has created a cheat sheet for dining out guilt free.

1. Do your homework
Research restaurants in your area that will accommodate modifications. Look for places that allow you to substitute whole eggs for egg whites for breakfast, offer lean meat and salad with dressing on the side for lunch and grilled chicken or fish with steamed vegetables for dinner.

2. Eat before you eat out
When you’re hungry, any and all food looks appealing. Have your first course at home to take the edge off. Choose a small protein shake or a hard-boiled egg.

3. Say no to free food
Most restaurants bring out tempting foods like tortilla chips and bread before the meal. Send them back or let the host know beforehand not to bring them to the table.

4. Sip safely
Alcoholic drinks are often packed with calories, so make sure you weigh your options carefully. Your best bet is heart-healthy red wine which contains fewer calories and carbs than other types of alcohol. Your absolute worst option is a sugar-laden mixed drink, like a Pina Colada.

5. Say no to starters
While it’s best to abstain altogether, if you can’t resist, choose a mixed salad or broth-based soup. Order oil and vinegar on the side and ask for a wedge of lemon, both of which can suppress your appetite so you eat less when your main course arrives.

6. Keep it simple
Choose lean protein plus veggies for your main course. Look for grilled, broiled or poached fish, chicken, turkey or lean sirloin and avoid anything fried, basted, braised, au gratin, crispy, escalloped, pan-fried, sautéed, stewed or pan-roasted. If your dish comes with a sauce or gravy, order it on the side. If your dish comes with a starch, ask to substitute another vegetable instead.

7. Go with your gut
To prevent the sensation of feeling stuffed, tune in to your hunger signals and try to portion your meal ahead of time. A serving of meat should be no larger than the palm of your hand. As soon as your plate hits the table, slice off any extra and have packed up in a take-out container.

8. Skip the sweet stuff
Avoid temptation by declining to see the dessert menu following your meal. Don’t be fooled by low-fat offerings such as sorbets and fruit cobblers, they’re typically loaded with sugar and calories.


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